That Grim Reaper
Today’s Article Is Not Tech-related
Yesterday was one of my better days.
Well.. it was, up until I checked in on a friend.
And heard the news.
My friend was not having a good day.
Not at all.
My friend had just lost their son. Rather suddenly and unexpectedly. About an hour before I dropped by.
How’s that for a kick in the ‘nads?
Just getting by, and getting along, in this life is plenty tough. Sure, there are some Good Times. But when Death (or.. divorce) comes and permanently removes someone you love, everything changes. In some cases, I imagine it’s a bit like waking up to find yourself on another planet.
Grief.. mourning.. capital “L” loss.. bereavement. These “natural things” are – I believe – truly life’s biggest and most difficult challenges. The “big earthquakes” of Life. They tell me coping with loss is a “process” and they tell me “everyone mourns in their own way”. I have known a few who were not up to the job.
My friend seems reasonably okay. And thankfully they have a terrific ‘support group’ of caring friends, and we will help them however we can.
Not everyone has such a ‘network’, and their “process” is experienced mostly alone. If that describes you (or someone you know), there’s a “coping with loss” Q & A article on WebMD that you may find practical and helpful, here. And I think the info on this page may help out as well. It is a challenging job – probably our most challenging. Some of us may need a little help doing it. No shame in that.
… I don’t think I’m going to be as quick to get frustrated by traffic, or long lines at the checkout, for a while.
… and I’m going to take the time to ‘count my blessings’ and ‘smell the roses’ .. and savor this mug of hot cocoa. I have some thinking to do.
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